sassplaidandbulletholes:

Kind of want to come out to my parents today.

It’s something I’ve been going back and forth on for a while, but I just don’t know. I’m not entirely sure if the “we’ll love and support you no matter what” they’re always talking about includes queerness as a possibility. Maybe I’ll casually bring up the SCOTUS ruling and gauge reactions?

I’m just really tired of needing to hide in my own home.

I’m not telling you what to do.  I’m telling you the experience of a
friend.  Just something to think about because he came out and had a
hell of a time.  He wishes he would’ve waited until he was ready to move
out so he had a backup – a place to go when they kicked him out.  Not
that your parents will do that, but he did it when he was 15 and they
kicked him right out.  He lived with friends for a while until he saved
up enough money to get a place of his own.  But at 15, not many places
are willing to hire.

Thankfully, one of his friends had great
parents who were very upset he’d been kicked out for just being
himself.  They kinda took him in.

It’s totally up to you, and I’d
never tell someone how to come out or when.  And please feel free to
ignore me because it’s a very personal decision.  I just wanted to let
you know about my friend 🙂

I personally waited to come out until I owned my own house.  My family is really awesome, and they pretty much just went “yeah, and?” like they already knew I wasn’t completely straight (I’m pansexual) and didn’t care, so they wouldn’t have kicked me out anyway, but the backup of KNOWING I’d still have a place to live was nice.